My parents' anniversary was a few weeks ago and it got me thinking....what is love? I am an admitted hopeless romantic. I adore reading Nicholas Sparks' novels and watching all assortments of romantic movies, whether it be The Notebook, or a romantic comedy like The Proposal. Although, all these romantic stories and fairy tales little girls hear growing up are not necessarily a correct depiction of what love truly is.
I think the media has put a negative spin on love, that it comes and goes and it isn't really a problem if it's only temporary because someone else will come along. This saddens me. The idea that divorce is acceptable and sleeping around isn't really that big of a deal is just plain wrong. God did not intend for either of those things to become the "norm". Marriage is a sacred entity that God created. I am by no means condemning those who have been through divorce, I understand that circumstances happen. Things change that are out of your control and the situation needs to be changed. My mom is divorced, and now she has been happily married to my daddy for 23 years. God creates beautiful things out of storms in our life and my parents' marriage is an example of that for my mom.
Lately there have been a significant amount of different marriage talk blog posts circulating on Facebook. Being a hopeless romantic, I read every one to see other people's outlook on marriage and how they incorporate Christ into the importance of a relationship. I agree with some, disagree with others, but posts that give me hope are ones like the one my mom shared a few days ago. (I'm posting the link at the bottom if you'd like to read it!) This blog, "A Holy Experience", explained what real romance is. It's not the fairy tale picture of the most extravagant proposal you can think of and the marriage with no problems where you live "happily ever after". It is about a man who leads your marriage as the head of the house as God intended, the man who loves you when you're not so nice or when you're sick as a dog. The man that bores a hole into your heart. Isn't that beautiful? That's the kind of love I want.
I'm 21, and have only truly had one real relationship. Loneliness hurts. Seeing others around me in relationships and wondering what's wrong with me is painful and also something incredibly ridiculous all at the same time. I shouldn't be thinking these things. I see others around me in love, like two of my best friends (who are ridiculously cute and meant for each other), and I think "I want that, why don't I have that?" Well you know what the answer to that is? Because God hasn't said yes for me yet. And that's okay. All this waiting is only making me more of the woman God needs me to be for the man He has for me. I really struggle with this particular subject and have had many friends and mothers to me tell me, in the midst of my tears and their concern, that someone is waiting for me...and they are going to be amazing. I have no choice but the believe them, because they know me best and they want the best for me as well. In the bible, Jacob worked for a total of 14 years to have the right to marry Rachel and it seemed but a moment to him because of how deeply he loved her. Now THAT'S love. To be pursued, to be willing to do anything to be with the person you love, that's the kind of love God meant for everyone. He created romance, so he desires for his children to be romanced. Christ is a picture of romantic love. This is the kind of love I am waiting on.
In the meantime, I hope and pray I am becoming the woman of God I need to be for the man God has for me. There are so many things I want to do in life and be to someone. Be a wife. Be a mother. But those are for another post. :) So ladies, if you're reading this and feeling discouraged because you're single too, don't worry. God has someone for you that will romance you the way you are meant to be. We just have to step back and allow God to write our love story!
A "Boring" Man (This is the post I was talking about earlier!)
25 Things I'll Tell My Wife (This is a great post, I loved it! The whole blog is great, and the lists make me want to write more!)
Until next time,
Reychel
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